Want to know if your relationship is destined to last? It could be time to stop viewing it through rose colored glasses. There is a huge difference between believing that someone is “the one” and knowing that they are and in many cases, you can convince yourself that there is something there even when it isn’t right. Knowing that your relationship isn’t working is usually a gut feeling and if any of these signs are glaringly obvious, it could be time to reconsider what you thought you knew.
- Your Other Half Is Mean
There’s no getting around it; if your other half truly loves and respects you, they will treat you with kindness and affection. Sure, not everyone is going to be happy all of the time but if the overriding feeling in your relationship is that of mutual contentment, then you’re probably good to go. Someone treating you with mean behaviour is not a sign that they’re playing hard to get; it is a sign that they’re truly mean, and they’re probably not going to change. Their meanness can only develop and deepen over the years, so if you’re not being treated with respect now, it’s probably time to get out.
- The Timing Isn’t Right
It’s a huge relationship cliche and yet, timing really is everything when you’re trying to make it work. No matter how much you care for your significant other, if you both want different things for the future, the relationship probably doesn’t have a long shelf life. While you might convince yourself that they’re worth waiting for, ask yourself if you would give a loved one the same kind of advice. Waiting around for something that might never happen can only leave you bitter and unhappy and essentially, you need to take your happiness into account.
- You Can’t Shine
When you’re in a happy, balanced relationship, it is screamingly obvious. You take good care of yourself, devote yourself to your friends and family and generally, get along with few bumps in the road. If you’re in an unhappy relationship, however, you will wear it all over your face, no matter how much you might think you’re hiding it. A good relationship will bring out the best in you, making it easier for you to shine in any situation. While there is no “one size fits all” way to test this factor, if you’re not feeling like your usual self, then something’s probably off in the relationship.
- Your Chemistry Is Off
Sometimes, a mismatched relationship is nothing more than a gut feeling. No matter how great you might be with someone on paper, if you feel no desire to be romantic with them then your relationship is never going to work. The feeling of attraction is the easiest thing to spot when you’re in a new relationship and if you don’t get butterflies when you’re with someone, it’s probably not meant to be.