The Introvert’s Guide To Dealing With Small Talk

There are points in life in which, whether we like it or not, small talk becomes the topic of conversation. Meeting people for the first time, breaking the ice in a meeting or even going to the hairdressers requires that we master this kind of communication and for the most part, we do a good job of it. What happens when you’re an introvert? Shyness can lead to a crippling sense of self doubt and when you’re trying to establish a new relationship, it can really get in the way. It’s time to take back control. By working on your small talk skills, you can grow in confidence and talk your way through any situation. You can do anything you set your mind to.

  1. Keep The Questions Coming
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If you don’t like talking about yourself, the next logical step is to turn the tables towards the other person. Asking someone new questions about themselves, their job and their ideas aids to keep the conversation flowing and might just help you to open up in the process. You might find you share something in common and find it a whole lot easier to talk to the other person!

  1. Consider Your Answers
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When the tables are turned and you’re the one doing the speaking, it’s easy to become flustered. Take a deep breath. Thinking about your response before you dive in will give you the opportunity to form an opinion and get your words in order. Try to avoid short, closed answers, instead leading into a new type of conversation. Stick to topics that interest you and you will find the whole thing a lot easier.

  1. Give Them A Compliment
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When all else fails, a well thought through compliment always goes down well. Complimenting an item of clothing the other person is wearing will make them feel a little more at ease and lead into a different conversation point. People always like to hear nice things about themselves, so don’t be afraid to be positive. The other person will more likely than not warm to you and feel more compelled to chat to you even longer!






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