Break ups are never easy. Whether you were together for years or weeks and no matter how the relationship ended or who ended it, it can be easy to get hung up on the idea of being with your ex and dwell on the past and be unable to move forward. We have all dealt with this at one time or another, and this article will take you through three tips you can use to try and help to move on from your ex.
1. Look from the Outside Looking In
This tip essentially means that while people are in a relationship, they tend to ignore the warning signs and things that are potentially going wrong and can’t look at the relationship from an outside perspective. This is because everyone wants to think their relationship is perfect, when the truth is, very few (if any) really are. After the break up, you may have a hard time moving on as you remember the relationship as a “perfect fantasy”, when in reality, there were a ton of negatives and warning signs. Once you are able to look in retrospect and realize your relationship wasn’t perfect, you can move on easier.
2. Cut off Contact
While the one thing you may want to do after a breakup is to contact your ex and try work things out or remain friends, this only slows down the process of recovering from the break up. While yes, it would be nice to hear from them or see them, those meetings or conversations are bad for the long run if you are looking to move forward. If you are really looking to move on, you need to see and experience your life without them and these conversations and meetings will greatly increase the time and energy it will take to truly move on.
3. Love Yourself
No, it’s not just the title of a catchy Justin Bieber song, this is perhaps the best thing a person can do to help move on from an ex. Unfortunately, it is also one of the hardest to do. Forgiving yourself and being content with being alone can be a painstaking process, but once you can do that, you will feel much better not only about the future, but also the past. The old adage is that you can’t love someone else until you love yourself, and that is true as if you can’t be happy alone or feel worthy, then you put way too much pressure on a potential partner, which is never a good thing.